The Communication between men and women over the internet.

The Communication between men and women over the internet.

Compiled by Abu Ziead al Athary.

As salamu alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu

The noble shaykh ubayd al jabari may Allah protect him repeats his warning against communication, with mobile phones or over the internet, between men and women while claiming the justification of seeking knowledge or giving dawah.

In an open question and answer session taking place every Sunday evening in the Paltalk room salafi duroos the noble shaykh said: “communicating over the telephone is an area and way in which the heart of both the speaker and communicator will become attached to the other.”

Here is a transcript of what the shaykh commented on after an answer to a similar question: I would like to bring to attention a dangerous issue. Which of many Muslim men and women, ascribe themselves to knowledge fall into.  I have dealt with this issue before but many of the people have refused it and they have been obstinate and rejected the advice. From the news that has reached me of the danger of this issue, a person finds it embarrassing to mention it.  And this is the issue, which individuals speaking over the phone and communication via mobile phones.

This matter has overcome many men and women with the justification of Dawah but this justification is not valid and it is an excuse which is corrupt.  It is not hidden from every Muslim man and woman whose heart has been filled with the awe and reverential fear of Allah, that al Khallwa (being alone with a member of the opposite sex with whom there is no relation) is Haraam.  The meaning here is that khallawaa is being alone with a strange men and women.

As for the evil effects of this, as have been relayed to me, they are more severe than al khallwa, since al khallwa in a house or in a car causes people to look at them, as for communicating over the internet and sending and receiving messages over the phone then this is a hidden Khallawa, which is only known to the Originator of the heavens and the earth and the noble scribes (Malakay)

Indeed many women have complained that what has busied their husbands are these conversation and communication and I will mention some of their evil effects for you:

1st  If these communications are taking place in a chat room, for example in Salafi Duroos, I say in the name of those supervising the room this type of chatting is a sin upon you.

2^nd   Chatting like this busy one from learning, since those who isolate themselves by conversing with whatever they want from conversation, then busy themselves away from what is transmitted by Salafi Duroos and from other knowledge based lessons and this is obstruction in the path of Allah.

3^rd   Communicating over the telephone is an area and way in which the heart of both the speaker and communicator will become attached to the others.  And this is I swear by Allah the path of fitnah and an entrance for shaytaan.  It is not permissible for you, O dear Muslim sister, that you spend time conversing with strangers with the justification of Dawah. If you have the pressing need to ask a question then ask the people of knowledge to the extent of your need and then turn away.

Further, this communication has in it greetings and gentle speech which is a type of submissive speech which has been prohibited, O Muslim sister.  As a result, perhaps you might be a cause of what creeps in between married couples of unrest, quarrels and bad relations between them, the result of which could perhaps be divorce.  I have come to know that in the West and perhaps also in the East, that which is hated has occurred due to this communication and conversing.

This is why I call ever Salafi man and woman to leave this terrible action which Shaytaan has opened up to them and beautified in their hearts, using the justification of knowledge, and spreading of knowledge and Dawah.  It was not from the practice of the Salaf that men and women would meet up to study together, but rather a woman would ask a scholar about what a woman needs in her deen.  Also, if a female scholar was found then she would sit and listen to the men and women who came to her and would speak to the men in the presence of her guardian from behind a screen.

This only a reminder for me first and you, Allah is the One who guides to the correct way.

Your brother

Abu Zied al-Athary

www.salafiduroos.net

Marriage or Knowledge?

Author: Shaikh Rabee’ Bin Haadee Al Madkhalee (may Allah keep him)

Source: www.rabee.net Translator: Abu ‘Abdis Salaam Siddiq Al Juyaanee

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Q: Which should come first; seeking knowledge or getting married, taking into consideration that I can’t be patient on remaining unmarried?

A: If you can be patient then learn (i.e. seek knowledge) and be patient. Meaning, “Seek knowledge before you denigrate” as Umar (radi Allah ‘Anhu) said; this is because marriage hinders some people from seeking knowledge. When they get married they leave off seeking knowledge and their diligence departs.

However, if you have the ability to combine between these two beneficial matters, then good (do so); as for the one who knows that which is within him and views that he will commit vile acts, fornicate etc, then by Allah, for him to marry, safe guard himself and remain chaste takes precedence.

Learning and Memorizing the Quran

  Reciting the Qur’aan, as it is understood by our Noble and Pious Predecessors, means to act upon it and to follow it and to adhere to the lawful and abandon the unlawful – and not merely recite it with one’s tongue.

Ibn Katheer (rh) said in his Tafseer Qur’an il-Adheem, regarding the saying of Allaah:

 ”Those to whom We have given the Book recite it as it truly should be recited, they are the ones who (truly) believe in it. And whoever disbelieves in it, then they are the losers.”[1]

 ”Qataadah said: “They are the Companions of the Messenger of Allaah (sallallaahu alaihi wasallam).”

 Umar ibn al-Khattaab (radiallaahu anhu) said: “When he comes across the mentioning of Paradise, he asks Allaah for Paradise and when he comes across the mentioning of the Fire, he seeks refuge in Allaah from the Fire.”

 Ibn Mas’ood said: “By Him in Whose Hand is my soul, verily its truthful recitation is that a person treats as lawful what is lawful there, treats as unlawful what is unlawful there, that he recites it just as Allaah had revealed it, that he does not give its words other than their proper meanings and does not give an interpretation to any part of it which is not its proper interpretation.”

Al-Hasan al-Basree (rh) said: “They act according to and upon its clear and manifest verses (whose meanings are clear and apparent) and they believe in its allegorical verses (whose meanings are unclear) and they entrust whatever is difficult for them (to know) to its Knower.”

Ibn Abbaas (radiallaahu anhu) said regarding “as it truly should be recited…”: “They follow it as it truly should be followed.[2]” And then he recited the verse: And by the Moon when it follows it (the Sun)[3]. He said: “Follows it.”

Ibn Mas’ood (radiallaahu anhu) said about the same verse: “They follow it as it truly should be followed.”

Umar ibn al-Khattaab (radiallaahu anhu) said: “They are the ones who when they pass by a verse mentioning mercy, they ask for it from Allaah and when they pass by a verse mentioning punishment, they seek refuge from it.”

And His saying: “They are the ones who (truly) believe in it”: is a description of the ones ‘to whom We have given the Book’ and who “..recite it as it (truly) should be recited..”[4]“

So dear reader, the meaning of reciting the Book of Allaah (Tilaawah) is to memorise it, to recite it as it was revealed to the Messenger (sallallaahu alaihi wasallam), to study it and to follow it, acting upon its clear and explicit verses (following its orders and refraining from its prohibition), to believe in its allegorical verses avoiding false interpretations of such verses and to submit the knowledge of their meanings to their Knower in truth, Allaah the Exalted. If you do that then you are guaranteed Paradise as Ibn Abbaas (radiallaahu anhu) has said: “Allaah guarantees the one who reads the Qur’aan and acts upon whatever is contained within it that he will not go astray in this life and will not be wretched in the Hereafter.”

NOTES

1 Soorah Baqarah 2:121
2 “Yattabi’oonahu haqqa ittibaa’ihi” So the meaning of Tilaawah in this verse as Ibn Abbaas and Ibn Mas’ood explain is Ittibaa’
3 Soorah Shams 91:2
4 Tafseer Ibn Katheer (1/168-169)