Here words of advice can benefit not only the sisters, but the brothers as well…
Umm ‘Abdillaah Al Waadi’iyyah Bint Ash Shaykh Muqbil bin Haadee (rahmatullaahi ‘alaihi) said after the opening du’aa,
“O sisters, Upon us is have mercy upon ourselves. Save yourself from the Fire. There is no way out for anyone from the Fitna that we are in now, except by sticking to what the Prophet (sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam) came with.”
Hadeeth of Abu Najeeh Al ‘Irbaad bin Sariyyah’ (radhiyallaahu ‘anhu): The Prophet (sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam) admonished us with an intense sermon which caused our hearts to tremble, and the eyes to shed tears. So, we said, Yaa Rasoolullaah (sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam) this is as if it were your last sermon. (Aboo Daawood and others declared it Saheeh).
“There is no way out for anybody except by sticking to the Sunnah which the Prophet (sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam) came with. This holding requires submission, a complete submission. As believers, it is a must on us. We have to say regarding any command from Allaah Ta ‘Aalaa, and HIS Messenger (sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam), “Sami’naa wa ata’naa,” (We hear and we obey), and not like the Yahood (Jews) who said, “We hear and we disobey.” It is not befitting for the believing man nor the believing woman, when the Prophet (sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam) comes with a decision, that they have a choice after the Prophet.”
“O sisters, the truth is very heavy. Falsehood is light (easy to accept). It is very heavy, except with those whom Allaah made it easy for, and guided them for that.”
Hadeeth: Jannah is surrounded by undesirable things. The Fire is surrounded by desires.
“O sisters, it is upon us that we get used to submitting to Allaah.” Umm ‘Abdillaah (hafidhahallaah) mentioned a poem:
“Your nafs are always wanting if you make it a habit. If you control and limit yourself, that is what your nafs will get used to.”
“Do not say ‘why’ to the command of Allaah.” Umm ‘Abdillaah (hafidhahallaah), gave the example of Salaat. She said, “Pray and get used to it. We are commanded to Fast, so you must Fast, make Hajj and ‘Umrah. HE, Ta ‘Aalaa, has made certain things compulsory towards the husband and we do not say why.”
“O sisters, it is up to us to preserve our tongue, especially because the Prophet (sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam) told us the reason why women are the majority in the Hell Fire. Be more careful than men. Women curse a lot and have many complaints. It is not a good habit to complain to this sister, that sister, to this one, and that one. Guard your tongue!”
Gheebah: It is to say something behind the back of your brother, that which he would not like to have been said, even if it is true, and if it is not true, then you have slandered him.
“When the believing woman leaves her home, she wears Hijaab, and she leaves the home properly.”
Allaah Ta ‘Aalaa said:
وَقَرْنَ فِي بُيُوتِكُنَّ وَلَا تَبَرَّجْنَ تَبَرُّجَ الْجَاهِلِيَّةِ الْأُولَى وَأَقِمْنَ الصَّلَاةَ وَآتِينَ الزَّكَاةَ وَأَطِعْنَ اللَّهَ وَرَسُولَهُ إِنَّمَا يُرِيدُ اللَّهُ لِيُذْهِبَ عَنكُمُ الرِّجْسَ أَهْلَ الْبَيْتِ وَيُطَهِّرَكُمْ تَطْهِيرًا
Translated to mean: And Stay in your houses, and do not display yourselves like that of the times of ignorance, and perform As-Salaat (Iqamaatus Salaat), and give Zakaat and obey Allaah and His Messenger. Allaah wishes only to remove Ar Rijs (evil deeds and sins, etc.) from you, O members of the family (of the Prophet), and to purify you with a thorough purification. 33/33
“Allaah has made it waajib upon us to preserve our ears, and to avoid listening to songs, Gheebah, and Nameemah. Allaah created us for ‘Eebaadah. The Dunyaa is temporary and attractive. The Prophet (sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam) warned against submitting to the Dunyaa.”
Ham: All that you think of, and focus on.
“The one whose Ham is the Dunyaa, Allaah will scatter from him, it could be from his family, his money, etc. All that he will see is poverty. The person will not attain anything more than what is written for him. Whoever focuses on the Aakhirah, all your needs will be brought near, and made easy for you. The believing heart is rich, even if the believer is poor. The World will come to you, it is forced to you.”
Hadeeth Qudsi: The Prophet (sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam) said that Allaah Subhaanahu Wa Ta’Aalaa said, “O children of Aadam (‘alaihis salaam), if you rush into worship, I will fill your hearts with Rizq (provision). Do not neglect, (be alert). If you neglect, I will fill your hands with poverty and things that will make you busy.”
“Allaah condemned the people who are filled with the Dunyaa. Be careful, and aware of submitting to the Dunyaa. Sit with As Saalihaat (the pious women), it has a lot of affects. Go back to submitting to Allaah so that you will be from Ahlul Jannah. Stick to The Book (The Qur’aan). Seek ‘ilm of the Islaamic Law. Try to understand the Book of Allaah, it is the best way to come close to HIM. Be eager and anxious in seeking ‘ilm. Be careful, do not do a deed until you know whether or not it is Halaal or Haraam. Do not rush into it until you know.”
Was Salaamun ‘Alaal Mursaleen, Walhamdulillaahi Rabbil ‘Aalameen