The Communication between men and women over the internet.
Compiled by Abu Ziead al Athary.
As salamu alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu
The noble shaykh ubayd al jabari may Allah protect him repeats his warning against communication, with mobile phones or over the internet, between men and women while claiming the justification of seeking knowledge or giving dawah.
In an open question and answer session taking place every Sunday evening in the Paltalk room salafi duroos the noble shaykh said: “communicating over the telephone is an area and way in which the heart of both the speaker and communicator will become attached to the other.”
Here is a transcript of what the shaykh commented on after an answer to a similar question: I would like to bring to attention a dangerous issue. Which of many Muslim men and women, ascribe themselves to knowledge fall into. I have dealt with this issue before but many of the people have refused it and they have been obstinate and rejected the advice. From the news that has reached me of the danger of this issue, a person finds it embarrassing to mention it. And this is the issue, which individuals speaking over the phone and communication via mobile phones.
This matter has overcome many men and women with the justification of Dawah but this justification is not valid and it is an excuse which is corrupt. It is not hidden from every Muslim man and woman whose heart has been filled with the awe and reverential fear of Allah, that al Khallwa (being alone with a member of the opposite sex with whom there is no relation) is Haraam. The meaning here is that khallawaa is being alone with a strange men and women.
As for the evil effects of this, as have been relayed to me, they are more severe than al khallwa, since al khallwa in a house or in a car causes people to look at them, as for communicating over the internet and sending and receiving messages over the phone then this is a hidden Khallawa, which is only known to the Originator of the heavens and the earth and the noble scribes (Malakay)
Indeed many women have complained that what has busied their husbands are these conversation and communication and I will mention some of their evil effects for you:
1st If these communications are taking place in a chat room, for example in Salafi Duroos, I say in the name of those supervising the room this type of chatting is a sin upon you.
2nd Chatting like this busy one from learning, since those who isolate themselves by conversing with whatever they want from conversation, then busy themselves away from what is transmitted by Salafi Duroos and from other knowledge based lessons and this is obstruction in the path of Allah.
3rd Communicating over the telephone is an area and way in which the heart of both the speaker and communicator will become attached to the others. And this is I swear by Allah the path of fitnah and an entrance for shaytaan. It is not permissible for you, O dear Muslim sister, that you spend time conversing with strangers with the justification of Dawah. If you have the pressing need to ask a question then ask the people of knowledge to the extent of your need and then turn away.
Further, this communication has in it greetings and gentle speech which is a type of submissive speech which has been prohibited, O Muslim sister. As a result, perhaps you might be a cause of what creeps in between married couples of unrest, quarrels and bad relations between them, the result of which could perhaps be divorce. I have come to know that in the West and perhaps also in the East, that which is hated has occurred due to this communication and conversing.
This is why I call ever Salafi man and woman to leave this terrible action which Shaytaan has opened up to them and beautified in their hearts, using the justification of knowledge, and spreading of knowledge and Dawah. It was not from the practice of the Salaf that men and women would meet up to study together, but rather a woman would ask a scholar about what a woman needs in her deen. Also, if a female scholar was found then she would sit and listen to the men and women who came to her and would speak to the men in the presence of her guardian from behind a screen.
This only a reminder for me first and you, Allah is the One who guides to the correct way.
Abu Zied al-Athary